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John 10:17,18 – “Therefore doth my Father love me, because I lay down my life, that I might take it again. No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again. This commandment have I received of my Father.”

Power. We like to think that we have power over our life. We like to think that our date book is our own. We like to think that we have control over when we sleep and when we rise. We like to think that we have control over what the scales say or doesn’t say. We like to think that we have control over how our children are raised and who leads us into the future of our country. 

But do we really have control over any of those things?

I’d venture to say no. No we do not. Oh, our perception may be that we got this. But in reality….we don’t. 

In these verses today, Jesus reminds us of a very important fact – He has control. He has so much control that He has the power to freely give His life and take it back up again. This blew His audience’s mind. How could this possibly be?

We serve an amazingly powerful God. One that has the capability to give His own Son who has the power to willingly sacrifice His own life. One that has the power to raise Himself from the grave because He is all God and all man all at the same time. Did you hear that? Minds being blown all over the place!

What I want to get across today is God is in control. He knows what has been, what is and what will be. And if Jesus can raise Himself from the grave, He won’t forget you when He returns. Sometimes life feels so uncertain, so easily downtrodden, so discouraging. But take heart, God is in control. Truly, we have nothing to worry about. 



Isaiah 41:10 – “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

Matthew 6:34 – “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”

Isaiah 14:24 – “The LORD of hosts hath sworn, saying, Surely as I have thought, so shall it come to pass; and as I have purposed, so shall it stand”

So for the last few days, everyone has asked me, “What do you think about the election?” My response has been, “God is still in control.” A few people have come back with a “Really?” But yesterday, one lady, who is through her lineage a Jew, said to me, “You really believe He is still in control? I’m not so sure.”

I. Was. Heartbroken. I don’t understand how anyone could question whether or not God is in control. But when someone who professes to be a Jew and knowing their heritage and all that God has done for them says to me “Really?”, I am troubled. 

Whether or not you are happy or sad or burdened or depressed or concerned about the way things are going right now, God is in control. He always has been and He always will be. Crazy people may rule the land. (They have been, right?)   Fanatics may be throwing temper tantrums in the street. Extremist may be marching around trying to intimidate everyone. But GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL!  

I think the most troubling thing about some of the discussions where people question whether or not He is still in control is this – where is their hope? I HAVE to believe that He is still in control. Otherwise, I think in would curl up in a ball in the corner and wait out the rapture. He is my hope. Knowing that He is in control gets me out of bed and gets me through dealing with crazy people. It is what puts one foot in front of the other. 

My hope, my trust, my comfort is solely in Jesus Christ my Savior. As the old song goes, “My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus’ blood and righteousness. I dare not trust a sweeter strain but wholly lean on Jesus’ name. On Christ the solid rock I stand. All other ground is sinking sand. All other ground is sinking sand.”


Romans 14:10-13 – “But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ. For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God. So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.”

I’m having a tough time with this lately. I’m finding it harder and harder not to judge others I see. 

I see people driving around with bumper stickers on their cars for political candidates and I think, “Are they crazy? How could they possibly vote for that person?” I see people driving around smoking in their car and think, “Don’t they know what they are doing to their health?” I see overweight people at the grocery store buying a cart full of soda and junk food and high fat frozen food and think, “How sad that they don’t make better choices.” I see people posting on Sunday afternoon about their recreational adventure Sunday morning and just shake my head. 

And through all of this, I shouldn’t judge. I have enough problems and shortcomings on my plate. How is that supposed to happen? How am I supposed to go through the day seeing all of this and not judge? I don’t get it. 

I’m a very opinionated person. Every one who knows me knows this. I can be very passionate about some things. And it is hard not to judge. 

Yet, Jesus has called me to walk like Him. One day we will all be standing before Him giving an account of our life. Why do I continually add judging others to that list? There are times when I will see something and think, “Don’t judge. Don’t judge.” And before the fourth word fully forms in my brain, I’m judging. Deep sigh. 

It. Is. Tough. 

But when I judge, I’m putting a stumbling block between me and that person. That stumbling block can keep me reaching out to them the way He wants me to. It can bias my objective and make me choose a different path. Judging others can sometimes be very cruel. And that’s not something Jesus would have wanted said about any of us who choose Him as our Savior. 

What to do, what to do. 

This is something I cannot handle on my own. This is something that requires way more strength than I have. I have to let Jesus lead me in this. I just have to. I have to give Him the reign of my heart and mind and allow Him full creative authority to do whatever is necessary to keep me from judging others. Hand it over. Give it up. (Wait for it…) Let it go. (Sorry. I had to do that.)

So let me encourage you this weekend to take a look at your heart. Where do you stand when you see something you want to judge? Do you let Jesus filter it first or does your brain take over and let it fly in your head? It’s tough. I know. But remember, one day we will all have to stand before the Judgement seat and give an account – all of us. 


Psalm 19:14 – “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.”

This is probably one of my all time favorite verses. One of my other favorites is Philippians 4:13.

I had Ladies’ Auxiliary meeting last night. This was one of the verses that I did our lesson on. I challenged the ladies to memorize this verse and meditate upon it so as to apply it directly to their every day life.

You see, our lesson last night was on tact – being tactful. I don’t know about you, but sometimes my mouth runs away from me. On and on I go like a babbling brook. Just the other day I was watching a soccer game with no awareness whatsoever about who was around me and I opened my mouth to identify that my son was off-sides and who was standing right there? The oblivious referee – he wouldn’t have made the call if I hadn’t assisted him in identifying my son’s mistake. Open mouth, insert foot.

Being tactful includes being able to control your thoughts and your actions. It is being able to handle a situation with grace and dignity when what you really want to do speak your mind. It is knowing what to say, when to say it and how to say it.

But praise God, we don’t have to attempt this feat by ourself! Nope, we have the Holy Spirit to lead us and guide us through these delicate situations, if we let Him. That’s the thing – we have to LET Him. It is so easy to think that we can guard our tongue and control our thoughts. But more often than not, I find myself in a mess because I foolishly think that I can handle it.

Psalm 141:3 – “Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.”

My, oh my, how true this verse is! It reminds me of the prayer -keep Your arm around my shoulders and Your hand over my mouth. Control. Tact.

I need Jesus to be in charge of my thoughts. I have to consider the root of my words and that starts with my mind and my heart. If I let Him have control over these two areas, the opportunity is there to create an environment where He is praised and glorified in all areas of my life – including my words.

So, let me encourage you today to memorize these two verses and let them soak into who you are. Let them be the prayer on your lips each and every moment today. Let’s just see what God will do when we get out of the way and let Him lead.

Plan C

Proverbs 3:5,6 – “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

I know I have used this verse several times in the past, but bear with me.

How do you see yourself? Are you a control freak or do you roll with the punches? I like to think of myself as one who rolls with the punches. In truth, I think I am more of a control freak but subtly, of course. I always have a plan B. Well, most of the time I have a plan B. And when plan A and B don’t work, welcome in frustration. What really needs to happen is plan C – plan Christ. Truth be told, that should really really be plan A. But for some reason, I need control. I need to feel that I have it all together. But I don’t. Most times I am flying by the seat of my pants. If I know from one day to the next what will go on, I feel good. I hate going into a day and not having a clue how it will go. God likes to give me those days from time to time just to remind me that He has it all under control, not me.

Trust. When those days come along, it is the only thing that you can do to stay sane. You try to understand what is going on. But you realize that there is no way to understand the insanity of it all. That is why Solomon reminds us that our attempt to understand is futile. Don’t put any stock in it. And whenever you come out on the other side, give credit to your Director – Jesus Christ. He is the One you had to trust to get you out. There was no way you could do it yourself because you couldn’t even understand what was going on.

There are things and times in this life that don’t make sense. You don’t understand why you are facing them. You just want out. You just want to crawl up in His lap and be comforted. There will be time for that, later – after you make it through. For now, just hold on and trust. Don’t try for plan A or B. Just go first and foremost with plan C – plan Christ.

My little tongue or my big mouth

James 3:5 – “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!”
Yesterday, we were driving home when my daughter abruptly interrupted the conversation my son and I were having about soccer with this statement: “Sometimes I think my tongue has a mind of it’s own.” Now, she had been sitting there looking in the mirror at herself and singing and talking (it didn’t matter that no one was listening). That’s just how she rolls. When she said this, I looked at her confused. Where had this come from? She has a knack for saying random things but this was more out of left field than usual. My son just busted out laughing. Sometimes that is the best reaction for these things. Me, I had to probe deeper. But, to no avail. It was just a random moment popping out of her mouth.

But there is great truth in her random statement. I know sometimes I feel like my tongue has a mind of it’s own. Things will pour out of my mouth before my brain has a chance to rein it in. I hate it when that happens. I feel like a fool. Just a few little well placed words have the ability to start a huge, uncontrollable fire.

There are so many verses in the Bible about your tongue and your words. They have such an effect on people. Have you ever tried just being quiet in a situation? Not saying a word? It makes people uncomfortable sometimes. They think you are plotting or something. My momma always told me “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Aw, momma-isms. Don’t we all have a bucket full of those! But it is true. It can save you from a plethora of heartache.

So today, princess, let me encourage you to be quiet. Don’t let that little tongue of yours run off with itself. Don’t start a fire today unless it is a fire for The Lord.