Growing a friend

John 15:12-15 – “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.”

A friend. We all need them. We all desire to have a close one. A friend is someone you can talk to – who will listen and give you advise, if needed. Friends come in all shapes, sizes, ages, colors and genders. Chances are you have had different friends for different stages of your life. I know I have. But there are some friends that stand the test of time.

Yesterday afternoon, I spent the time shopping with my daughter. We had so much fun giving advise on shoes and sunglasses. We looked at books, swimsuits, camera cases and so much more. We laughed and talked and just enjoyed the time together.

I have a girlfriend with whom I love to talk. We will chat via texting for the longest time about so many different things. But as much fun as chatting over texting is, being face to face to share a good laugh is necessary. You can’t have a friendship without a relationship. And building a relationship means spending time together.

And then I have the friendship with my husband. Oh, this one is a must. How can two people live under the same roof and share the same bed without friendship? He is the one that knows my moods, my actions, my quirks and my determination. He knows my dreams and my fears. But as well as he knows me, there needs to One who knows me even better – Jesus.

How can I expect to be a better friend in all of the above mentioned situations if I don’t have a relationship with Him? I truly believe that one cannot know real love until they know Jesus. He showed us what love is. He showed us what being a friend is all about.

He wants a relationship with us. He wants us to allow Him into all parts of our life. He wants to be a part of our thoughts, our dreams, our quirks, our moods, our actions – He wants to be in it all. You can’t have this type of relationship on Sunday morning alone. It is something you have to choose to work at every day of the week.

I have a friendship that is growing right now. As I mentioned above, we text a lot. But when we get to see one another, we cherish that time together. We hold onto it. And we treasure it.

Growing a relationship with Jesus is the same way. Now, you can’t text Jesus but you can pray. You can spend time chatting with Him in your heart. And just like texting, sometimes you need to listen. It’s not a one way communication. And then there is your together time. One way to spend time together is through Bible study. Another way is when you go to church to worship. That is the time that you should treasure and cherish. That is the time to hold onto when you leave. You need to remember that time. You need to remember what you have learned about Him. You need to remember what He has commanded you through that time of learning and worship. And you need to go. Hebrews 10:25 – “Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is ; but exhorting one another : and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”

Friends. They are near and dear to our heart. We have to spend time with them to know them and grow our relationship with them. The same is true for the One true Friend. Our friends on the earth are special and to be treasured. But we must remember this: Proverbs 18:24 – “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” The One that sticks closer than a brother is Jesus. He is the One that will never hold us back. He will never disappoint. He will never leave nor will He be far away. Develop that friendship and make it grow.


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