Archive | April 2013


Job 1:8 – “Then the LORD said to Satan, ‘Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.'”
Have you ever stopped to think about the confidence God had in Job? I was sitting in church on Sunday when the preacher said something about Job and his patience.

I thought about Job. That poor man went through so much. I can’t imagine enduring the tragedies he did. And though he was at the lowest points of his life, he still did not curse God for what had happened to him.

Now, let’s go back a bit to this verse. Look at the first chapter of Job. He had it all, yet he lead his family in the ways of God. Remember, this was before the law of Moses (so the historians tell us).

God had great confidence in this man Job. He knew where Job’s heart really was. Satan tried to tell God that it was because of all he had that he worshipped God. But God knew the truth, Job served God because he loved Him.

What about you, princess. If you ended your day with everything that you have and all that you loved gone, would you still seek after God? Would you even want Him to help you? Does God look down on you and have the confidence in you to allow Satan to test you in such a severe way?

Deep stuff, I know. I don’t have the answer. But it is thought provoking, is it not? Let’s make the effort today to serve God the way that Job did through thick and thin – with our whole heart.


Southern sayings

Romans 12:20 – “On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.'”

I was born and raised in the South. We have lots of sayings down here one of my favorites that has always stuck with me is this: Kill them with kindness.

Look at the verse above with this saying in mind. See how this little saying is Scriptural? Yeeppp!

It is so hard to be nice to someone who is nasty. Their attitude makes you want to shake them or something. You want to stoop down to their level and be nasty right back. But seriously, sister, has that ever worked? No, it hasn’t. Usually it just makes things worse.

Paul encourages us here in Romans to throw the nasty person for a loop and be nice to them when they are not nice to you. They won’t know what to do. Retrospectively, it’s kinda funny to watch them squirm.

This is one of those “Jesus moments”. It is how He would act (and did act when He was here on the earth). But a warning: It is not easy. It takes loads of self-control not to let the nasty monster out. It is in the back of your mind rattling the cage.

So this week, princess, I challenge you to be nice to someone who is nasty to you. Kill them with kindness. Heap burning coals on their heads by doing what they least expect. And smile knowing that it wasn’t by your own strength that you threw them for a loop, but rather by the strength of The Almighty God that you were able to do so. Because you are God’s Girl!

The Wife part 5 – Wife and Mother

Proverbs 31:30 – “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

I know I have used this verse before in my blogs, but it is so good!

As I have said before, the Proverbs 31 woman always intimidates me. When you read the account of her life, she seemed to have it all and have it all together! Oh what bliss….

She was industrious. She provided for her family and her servants. Her husband adored her. She seems like a cross between Mary Poppins and Mr. Rogers. How does that work?

My life consist of “hurry-up and eat your dinner” meals, taxi cab nights to soccer and dance, “what is my chore tonight” questions (of which I usually have to make myself do) and then you have the best of all – “Mom, I love you.” That last thing makes all the other things doable.

As I look at the verse, I am reminded that my face will get wrinkles and my hair may try to turn gray. I may not always be able to talk my way in and out of things. My husband and children may begin to see my fault lines. Being a wife and mother is tough stuff. But in God’s eyes, I am His girl. He wants me just the way I am. And for that, I am truly thankful.

The Wife part 4 – The “S” word

Ephesians 5:21,22 – “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”

Ok sister, hold on tight. This could be a bumpy ride.

Submission. Oh, some people like to take this word and make it “obey”. Now, in some instances submission does mean obey. But here, it is a verb. That means it is an action. defines this verb as “to defer to another’s judgement, opinion, decision.”

I included the verse before the one about a wife to remind you that we are to submit to one another in Christ. It makes a huge difference when you read the Bible as it was written instead of how we have divided it up. Just a side note, always read several verses before the verse you are looking at and several verses after – just so you can get the whole picture.

Anyway, I want to give you my outlook on submission. I believe that a marriage is give and take – you give way more than you take. That being said, I do not believe that anywhere in the Bible that God instructed women to “obey” their husbands. We are not slaves or servants. We are helpers. And besides, if your husband is a follower of Christ, he is to submit to other followers – it goes back and forth.

In my marriage, my husband is the final authority in everything. I believe that when we get to the judgement seat, he will be the one ultimately responsible for our family. Does that mean I get off scot-free? Nope. That means I need to keep him informed and up to date when he is not around so that he can make the best decisions for our family.

Submission is a touchy subject. But I believe when looked at with the surrounding verses and in the light of God’s love, you can see something beautiful that God designed to withstand anything.

The Wife part 3 – The Cheerleader

Proverbs 12:4 – “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

I know that some women do not like to be considered “possessions” of a man. I know that some will read this verse and think that is what this is referring to. I don’t see it that way. Is a cheerleader the possession of the football team?

Nope. Same type of concept. We, as a wives, are to be a helper to our husband. God created us as a “helper” to our husband (see Genesis 2:18).

As a helper, we are to build up and not tear down. In this verse of Scripture, Solomon is sharing what a wife should desire to look like.

“Noble” – On, this word means “of an admirably high quality; notably superior; excellent”. Lofty goals, right? All this is saying is that we need to be better than the status quo. The average person is okay to their husband. As a princess, your prince deserves to be treated as such – even if he is not leading your home for The Lord. You never know, you might be the one to lead him there by your respectful actions and “noble character”.

Speaking of character, let’s look at that a bit more. “Character” is defined by as “qualities of honesty, courage, or the like; integrity”. Well…how about that?

Put these two definitions together and you get…..”excellent integrity”. A life above reproach. Tough. I know. Remember, I’m in the trenches with ya sister!

But the alternative is gross! “Decay in his bones”! Yuck! Who wants to be that?!

Today, princess, I want to encourage you to live your day in “excellent integrity”. Clean that house with all you have. Work that job in such a way that make people gawk. Do whatever you do today at such a high level that your husband says, “Wow babe! I don’t know how you do it! Thank you!”

The Wife part 2 – The Drippy Faucet

Proverbs 19:13b – “…a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.”

Don’t you hate it when the faucet is dripping? That sound will wake you from a hard sleep every time!

Isn’t it funny that Solomon compared a fussy wife with a drip? That constant nagging. Have you ever been here: “Mom. Mom. Mom! Mooooommmmmm!!” It’s the “mom” version of a drippy faucet.

I know that Solomon specifically pointed out a wife in this verse. And believe me, I have been that “quarrelsome wife” from time to time – I think we all have. However, I think we can spread the blanket a little wider to include lots of other people in the “quarrelsome” category – children, husbands, co-workers, clients. Yep, comprehensive list here! Everyone!

Being “quarrelsome” means stirring up trouble. Just trying to mess things up. It may be intentional or it may not be. Either way, when you hear that little bell going off in your head that says, “Hey. This person is starting to get annoyed with me.” Back off. Do yourself a favor and acknowledge what is going on and step away.

This is especially true in marriage. This is the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with – don’t make it miserable! You know when you are pushing his buttons. You know what “the look” looks like. Step away. Don’t be that “quarrelsome” wife.

God gave you to your spouse for a reason – to honor and glorify Him. Don’t tarnish that by nagging and dripping all the time. Shine. Let everyone see that there is something different about your relationship.

The wife

Proverbs 18:22 – “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.”

When you read this verse, what do you think?

I guess that depends on where you are at in life. Are you dating? Have you been married for a while? Are you widowed?

The one dating dreams of the husband she will one day marry. She dreams of the bliss she can only imagine.
The one married for a while wonders if she is really all that she can be for her husband. Or maybe she feels that he is not all she needs.
The widow looks back and remembers all these feelings. She has been through all these emotions and questions.

The thing is this: we could all stand to be better.
We could be better girlfriends – show your man that God is most important and that you are going to follow Him. Knowing this beforehand and agreeing upon that premise allows your relationship to follow a Godly path.
We could stand to be better wives. Our husbands don’t need us badgering them all the time. They need us to show them that if they are following Christ, then we will follow them. In this age of feminism, this might be archaic. But God has set forth a specific way for husbands and wives to behave that is respectful and equal.
As a widow, God expects something different from you. He wants you to teach the rest of us how to be good girlfriends and wives. You have a wealth of knowledge that we need to be taught. God gave you your husband for a set period of time. He taught you how to love him and care for him and your family. Now, it is your turn to show us how to follow that path in a loving and respectful way. And for the rest of us, that means we need to listen. We need to learn.
Think I am bonkers? Check out Titus 2. It is all in black and white.

Long and the short of it: Princess, we need to read our Bible and listen to the ones with more experience than us and become better for our significant other and our family. We need to step up to the plate and be the woman God has called us to be!